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Nearly 1 in 3 older teens gets ‘sexting’ messages

Tue Dec 15, 2009 12:03 PM EST
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— Thirty percent of 17-year-olds who have cell phones say they have received "sexting" photos or video messages, according to a new report from the Pew Internet & American Life Project.

Eight percent of 17-year-olds say they have sent such sexually suggestive images. Among teens ages 12 to 17 years old, 15 percent say they have received nude or nearly nude images of someone they know via text messaging on their cell phones, while 4 percent say they have sent such photos. Among 12- and 13-year olds, 6 percent say they have received "sext messages."

"It’s an issue that teens grapple with and deal with in their lives, and one that deserves attention," said Amanda Lenhart, Pew senior research specialist who worked on the "Teens and Sexting" report.

"In our focus groups, we heard that plenty of teens had experienced this, either by sending the suggestive images, receiving them or by encountering them second-hand on a passed-around cell phone, hearing about friends doing it, hearing about it in the hallway."

Sexting is gaining national attention, with at least two teen suicides in the past 18 months associated with the problem, and lawmakers and prosecutors around the country grappling with how to handle such cases.

The Pew report, based on focus groups with 800 teens in Denver, Atlanta and New York, mirrors the findings of a recent poll by the Associated Press and MTV of more than 1,200 teens which concluded that more than a quarter of them have been involved in sexting in some form.

Phone is 'major source of content' for teens
"The (cell) phone is such a vital part of these teens' lives that it isn’t surprising that it’s a major source of content for them — both positive content and content that’s more worrisome," Lenhart said.

In a 2004 survey of teens, Pew said, 18 percent of 12-year-olds had a cell phone, compared to 58 percent of 12-year-olds now. Five years ago, 64 percent of 17-year-olds had a cell phone, compared to 83 percent now. In addition, cell phones themselves have changed dramatically since 2004, with many of them now having Internet access.

Teens who pay their own cell phone bills are "more likely to send 'sexts,' " Pew said in the report, with 17 percent saying they have done so, compared to 3 percent of teens "who do not pay for, or only pay a portion of the cost" of their cell phone bills.

Text messaging is an add-on charge for most wireless users, and some parents monitor their children's' wireless use, including text messaging, as well as the content of those messages.

"Just 9 percent of teens who sent sexy images by text had parents who restricted the number of texts or other messages they could send; 28 percent of teens who didn't send these texts had parents who limited their child's texting," the Pew report said.

"One younger high school boy told us that he never sends or receives sexually suggestive images via text because 'my mom goes through my phone.' However, another high school boy described how he password-protected images to keep others from viewing them."

Happens 'far more than any poll can show'
Parry Aftab, executive director of WiredSafety.org, said sexting is much more of a problem than most parents realize.

"It's not 'that kid' who's doing it, it's your kid," she said. "If your kid hasn’t taken a (suggestive) picture and shared it with somebody else, in all likelihood they’ve seen one, they may have possession of one or they may be sending them around.

"And it’s happening far more than any poll can show," she said. "Many more kids are sexting at much younger ages than people think.

"They do it at slumber parties, they do it in the gym, in the locker rooms, where they all dance around, and somebody takes out their cell phone camera and take pictures of the others" and then shares the the photos with others by phone or posting them online.

Sometimes the reason for sending suggestive photos is "romantic," in some teens' eyes, to capture the interest of potential boyfriend or girlfriend. Sometimes, the Pew report said, teens view sexting "as a safer alternative to real-life sexual activity."

But too often, sexting messages get forwarded and shared with others, and are used by some teens as a way of bullying and humiliating the person whose image was originally meant for one pair of eyes only.

"Sometimes people will get into fights with their exs (sic), and so they will send the nudes as blackmail," said one high school-aged girl in the Pew report.

Another girl, in middle school, said she has "been asked to send naked pics, but I think that's stupid. You can ruin your reputation."

At least two suicides
At least two teens took their own lives after being harassed and taunted by their peers for such photos that were meant for one person, but then forwarded to many.

In September, Hope Witsell, a 13-year-old Florida girl, committed suicide after she used a cell phone to send a topless photo of herself to a boy she liked, and the photo was shared with those at school as well as with students at a nearby high school.

In July 2008, 18-year-old Jessica Logan of Ohio killed herself after being bullied and called names by female classmates for the nude pictures she had sent to a boyfriend, who sent them around after they broke up.

This month, Logan's parents filed suit against the ex-boyfriend, as well as others who allegedly participated in the harassment, for emotional distress.

Legal, emotional and moral issues
The Pew report noted that legislatures in some states — including Vermont, Utah and Ohio — are "stepping in to consider making laws that downgrade the charges for creating or trading sexually suggestive images of minors by text from felonies to misdemeanors."

That follows a high-profile case earlier this year in Pennsylvania where 17 students involved in distributing photos of nude or scantily clad female classmates could have faced felony child pornography charges. Instead, they accepted a prosecutor’s offer to resolve the cases by participating in a five-week after-school program on sexual harassment.

Parents, said Aftab, need to talk to their children about sexting and "separate the moral argument about keeping your clothes on — because the kids won't listen — from the realistic one, which is, you might find yourself charged by a prosecutor who wants to get into the news, or you might find your life ruined if this picture shows up, or you might find yourself subject to horrible harassment."

"We need to explain to them why, when that choice (to send a sext message) seemed like a good idea at the time …why they need to do something else to show the person they love that they love them, and that if you love somebody, you won’t ask them to do something like that."

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FlyinV

Another story revealing how much parents have slacked off on disipline over the past few years. 'Oh we don't like to intrude in their lives, we want them to trust us.'-This is what happens. 'Oh we don't do that because we respect their privacy.'--This is what happens. 'I wouldn't ever do that because my parents did it to me.'--This is what happens. 'Oh it's just a phase they go through, no need for us to fret over it.'--This is what happens. 'You did what? Well it better not happen again or I'll scold you with useless words that I will never enforce'--This is what happens. I could go on and on. This is what happens when the parents think their little 'babies' could never be involved with such activities because they don't ask, simply don't want to deal with it, or think their kids are so innocent. Our son is just fixing to turn 13. Yeah, big 13! What the heck happened? Anyway we actually check his phone logs-on our computer. Might seem invasive but guess what? He knows we check on him now and then and we do not have this sort of problem. When he gets a job and pays for his own phone, ect...then he can do 'sexting' all he wants, by then he will be old enough to make decent decisions pertaining such matters- I hope. I can only hope and pray I am doing a good enough job teaching him respect, moral values, ect. I guess what I'm getting at is that I am amazed at the lack of involvement by parents nowadays. Teachers and daycare workers are not, nor are they supposed to, teach kids morality or respect to the fullest extent. That is your job parents. Quit slacking, or this is what happens.

  • 1 vote
Reply#1 - Tue Dec 15, 2009 2:10 PM EST
joe n-

I think kids should be taught rights from wrongs, to do some thinking before acting on it too fast,some churches are pretty good at teaching the basics,I think the Lutheran churches have a good teaching plan.They should also be exposed to stories of people their age who made quick choices,later bit them in the but.Kids are smart,they can learn,it takes time.Are parents playing the same games,Tiger Woods,most hollywood idol lifestyles,politicians,and yea,clergy,parents,divorce rate is a little high,not the best models.This country was founded on Christian morals that have now been cast out,its easier and more fun short term,to let go.Long term ,people get hurt bad when they act too quickly by posting sextexts,internet exposures at early ages.If they are being exposed to the sex images,expose an aids clinic,std treatment and lifetime regrets,scare them a little into thinking about the wrongs and rights of lifechoices.Keep a watch on them,teens will always battle back,do not stop teaching them good behaviors.

    #1.1 - Tue Dec 15, 2009 3:27 PM EST
    Auteur 1536

    'Sexting' is a problem, but treating teens, especially teens who've been 'sext' bullied, isn't going to help the problem.

      #1.2 - Tue Dec 15, 2009 5:18 PM EST
      Auteur 1536

      some churches are pretty good at teaching the basics

      Yeah, like how to beat a homosexual or transsexual/transvestite or how to bash and judge someone for a stupid mistake they made, or how to judge people according to the bible's standards. A lot of good the church has done for people. *sarcasm*

      This country was founded on Christian morals

      No, this country was stolen and ruined by Christian morals.

      Kids are smart,they can learn,it takes time.

      According to you they're only "smart" if they have Christian morals.

      • 4 votes
      #1.3 - Tue Dec 15, 2009 5:26 PM EST
      sicken

      Fly--- Good luck, you think you know your teen? Well my husband and I thought we were doing all the right things also. We even blocked Myspace and Facebook on our computers.We go to church every week, we have had all the talks we were suppose to. My daughter has good grades, she is a Black Belt, we have kept in touch with it all! It boiled down to PEER pressure and a boy that was a bad apple, thats when we got the shock! Never expected our daughter to do it but we found the pictures of both of them almost 2 years ago. And you can bet the boy is out of her life, but she thought she was in love, and believed all the lies this boy told her. Now almost 2 years later she regrets it. But it was turmoil in my household for months, but we stayed on top of it. It also affected the younger children we have, it was rough but we have our daughter back from a brainwashing boy that came from a broken home with a mom that was out partying every night with a out of control son. What I am saying to you is don't think oh no NOT my kid, because thats what we thought. In my opinion technology is ruin these kids, give em a pencil and paper and make them do their homework and read!

      • 1 vote
      #1.4 - Tue Dec 15, 2009 5:36 PM EST
      G.H.Deleted
      Auteur 1536

      What do you expect from teens when you consider their parents probably never taught them any moral values.

      And what if the parents did teach them "good moral values"?

      • 1 vote
      #1.6 - Tue Dec 15, 2009 7:45 PM EST
      G.H.Deleted
      Auteur 1536

      Sometimes the hard way is the only way for them to learn.

      • 1 vote
      #1.8 - Wed Dec 16, 2009 12:33 AM EST
      Alexis Justice

      Comparison of This Demographic Phenomenon With The Experience of a Person Who Was a Teen from '96-2003.

      I was born in 1984, and, while I did not exhibit any sexual behavior until age 16-NOT due to any disciplinary measures taken by my parents; my mom laughed in my face when I told her my plan to abstain from sex until marriage-the majority of my peers in an upper middle class suburban community had not only already engaged in ACTUAL sexual activity by the age of 11, but had also drank alcohol, smoked cigarettes and marijuana.

      So, based on my personal experience, I have two questions:
      1.) How do parents forget/omit the details of their own memories of maturing sexually when it happens to their kids?

      2.) If "sexting" (the label itself seems highly indicative of the core issue: it's phone sex, people...PHONE SEX) is the extent of response of poor young adults to the pressures of the parents referred to in 1.), then who is losing what battle? The teens are being deprived of their human sovereignty by fear-stricken parents (I guess?) who, while they are unable to provide an otherwise more gratifying lifestyle to their maturing offspring, are more than willing to provide them with cell phones with internet capabilities.

      It hurt my feelings when my mom laughed at me, and it probably affected my failure to successfully fulfill my personal goal of abstenance.

      Similarly, rejecting any truth of your maturing child's state of mind undermines not only your relationship with them, but the legitimacy of their free will, which is a significantly more grave offense than being young and horny, like nature intends.

      PS-She may have laughed when I told her I wanted to abstain, but she never said anything about about her opinion on drugs. I maintained my sobriety until my senior year, because the subject matter had not been sensationalized or otherwise hyperbolically misrepresented by my guardian(s).

        #1.9 - Wed Dec 16, 2009 10:18 AM EST
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        oh please-504237

        I am sure that to these kids, sending nude pictures seems like the equivalent of what kids did a generation or two ago - going behind the gym and playing "you show me yours and I'll show you mine." Many kids did that without terrible consequences. Unfortunately, now there's a permanent record that can horribly abused. Parents DO need to monitor more closely. I think in the next generation it will be a standard thing for parents to think about. Right now we are in the transition generation, and the current set of parents are the ones caught between the old technology and the new technology. We need to wake up and make some rules!

        • 3 votes
        Reply#2 - Tue Dec 15, 2009 2:18 PM EST
        Alexis Justice

        Comparison of This Demographic Phenomenon With The Experience of a Person Who Was a Teen from '96-2003.

        I was born in 1984, and, while I did not exhibit any sexual behavior until age 16-NOT due to any disciplinary measures taken by my parents; my mom laughed in my face when I told her my plan to abstain from sex until marriage-the majority of my peers in an upper middle class suburban community had not only already engaged in ACTUAL sexual activity by the age of 11, but had also drank alcohol, smoked cigarettes and marijuana.

        So, based on my personal experience, I have two questions:
        1.) How do parents forget/omit the details of their own memories of maturing sexually when it happens to their kids?

        2.) If "sexting" (the label itself seems highly indicative of the core issue: it's phone sex, people...PHONE SEX) is the extent of response of poor young adults to the pressures of the parents referred to in 1.), then who is losing what battle? The teens are being deprived of their human sovereignty by fear-stricken parents (I guess?) who, while they are unable to provide an otherwise more gratifying lifestyle to their maturing offspring, are more than willing to provide them with cell phones with internet capabilities.

        It hurt my feelings when my mom laughed at me, and it probably affected my failure to successfully fulfill my personal goal of abstenance.

        Similarly, rejecting any truth of your maturing child's state of mind undermines not only your relationship with them, but the legitimacy of their free will, which is a significantly more grave offense than being young and horny, like nature intends.

        PS-She may have laughed when I told her I wanted to abstain, but she never said anything about about her opinion on drugs. I maintained my sobriety until my senior year, because the subject matter had not been sensationalized or otherwise hyperbolically misrepresented by my guardian(s).

          #2.1 - Wed Dec 16, 2009 10:17 AM EST
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          JazzJ

          I agree with FlyinV because it does begin with the parents. Yes it's important to trust your kids, becuase I trust mine, however, if they cross the boundaries set by me and their Mom; that's it. They have just forfeited their rights. Parents must "stick to their guns" and follow through with punishment if these rules are broken.

          • 3 votes
          Reply#4 - Tue Dec 15, 2009 2:25 PM EST
          Your Uncle Sammy

          Easy access porn has ruined a generation and is a National shame!! Where is all the outrage from womens groups and anyone left with decent morals??? Thank you hall of shamers ( Clinton, Barney Frank, Woods, Bryant, Etc, etc) for your role model behavior!! I say tax the heck out of porn, gambling and alcohol cause they're the cause of most of our social ills!! Also, no wonder the rest of the world wants to blow us up!! Kids: porno/nude pictures dehumanize people, make them objects and if no one has told ya lately it's really wrong, very harmfull and will come back to haunt ya BIG TIME!! Don't do it, dump the friends that are perverted and tell your folks to contact the parents of the kids dumb enough to do it!! Thanks for listening & Merry Christmas!!! Had enough of the moral decline yet?? I sure have?? Give me friends/people I can trust that aren't perverts, have self control and respect woman/people like they should!! We're not animals, evolution is a hoax(liar) BIG TIME and decent morals result in decent living -more real love, peace & Joy! Kids: Einstein believed in God, it's time we look to him also!!

          • 3 votes
          Reply#5 - Tue Dec 15, 2009 2:28 PM EST
          Nonenone

          I am not sure what your point with this post is but I can tell you one thing...Einstein did not believe in organized religion and most likely also didnt believe in the idea of an omnipotent all powerful god that created the universe...In fact if you did even a small amount of reading up from his writings and letters you would understand this...As with regard to sexting...Its not great and I would discourage my children from doing it because of the consequences but at the end of the day its just the human body and we shouldnt forget that!

          • 3 votes
          #5.1 - Tue Dec 15, 2009 3:43 PM EST
          Tom been both

          Nonenone, Sammy never said Einstein believed in organized religion. I have never seen one very well organized anyway. He said Einstein believed in God. There is a difference.

            #5.2 - Tue Dec 15, 2009 5:22 PM EST
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            Alexis Justice

            Comparison of This Demographic Phenomenon With The Experience of a Person Who Was a Teen from '96-2003.

            I was born in 1984, and, while I did not exhibit any sexual behavior until age 16-NOT due to any disciplinary measures taken by my parents; my mom laughed in my face when I told her my plan to abstain from sex until marriage-the majority of my peers in an upper middle class suburban community had not only already engaged in ACTUAL sexual activity by the age of 11, but had also drank alcohol, smoked cigarettes and marijuana.

            So, based on my personal experience, I have two questions:
            1.) How do parents forget/omit the details of their own memories of maturing sexually when it happens to their kids?

            2.) If "sexting" (the label itself seems highly indicative of the core issue: it's phone sex, people...PHONE SEX) is the extent of response of poor young adults to the pressures of the parents referred to in 1.), then who is losing what battle? The teens are being deprived of their human sovereignty by fear-stricken parents (I guess?) who, while they are unable to provide an otherwise more gratifying lifestyle to their maturing offspring, are more than willing to provide them with cell phones with internet capabilities.

            It hurt my feelings when my mom laughed at me, and it probably affected my failure to successfully fulfill my personal goal of abstenance.

            Similarly, rejecting any truth of your maturing child's state of mind undermines not only your relationship with them, but the legitimacy of their free will, which is a significantly more grave offense than being young and horny, like nature intends.

            PS-She may have laughed when I told her I wanted to abstain, but she never said anything about about her opinion on drugs. I maintained my sobriety until my senior year, because the subject matter had not been sensationalized or otherwise hyperbolically misrepresented by my guardian(s).

              #5.4 - Wed Dec 16, 2009 10:15 AM EST
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              Bertfw

              How hard is it to avoid flashing your goods to somebody with a phone cam?

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              Reply#6 - Tue Dec 15, 2009 2:30 PM EST
              FlyinV

              Bingo. That is why dispite my sons whining, he only has the basic phone. He wants a high dollar phone--better bust out that lawnmower buddy.

                #6.1 - Tue Dec 15, 2009 2:35 PM EST
                addiem

                Better have him bust out that lawnmower now. Just wait until you get that $386 cell phone bill 'cause Junior was on the cell with his honey for hours - and you didn't even realize they were chatting till the wee hours.

                  #6.2 - Tue Dec 15, 2009 4:36 PM EST
                  FlyinV

                  addiem----sounds like you were on the wrong minute plan. If you read my first post you wouldn't have said that.

                    #6.3 - Tue Dec 15, 2009 5:09 PM EST
                    addiem

                    I was on the minute plan that I "wanted", but the romeo in question, now a college freshman, was not even paying attention. :(

                      #6.4 - Tue Dec 15, 2009 10:14 PM EST
                      Alexis Justice

                      Comparison of This Demographic Phenomenon With The Experience of a Person Who Was a Teen from '96-2003.

                      I was born in 1984, and, while I did not exhibit any sexual behavior until age 16-NOT due to any disciplinary measures taken by my parents; my mom laughed in my face when I told her my plan to abstain from sex until marriage-the majority of my peers in an upper middle class suburban community had not only already engaged in ACTUAL sexual activity by the age of 11, but had also drank alcohol, smoked cigarettes and marijuana.

                      So, based on my personal experience, I have two questions:
                      1.) How do parents forget/omit the details of their own memories of maturing sexually when it happens to their kids?

                      2.) If "sexting" (the label itself seems highly indicative of the core issue: it's phone sex, people...PHONE SEX) is the extent of response of poor young adults to the pressures of the parents referred to in 1.), then who is losing what battle? The teens are being deprived of their human sovereignty by fear-stricken parents (I guess?) who, while they are unable to provide an otherwise more gratifying lifestyle to their maturing offspring, are more than willing to provide them with cell phones with internet capabilities.

                      It hurt my feelings when my mom laughed at me, and it probably affected my failure to successfully fulfill my personal goal of abstenance.

                      Similarly, rejecting any truth of your maturing child's state of mind undermines not only your relationship with them, but the legitimacy of their free will, which is a significantly more grave offense than being young and horny, like nature intends.

                      PS-She may have laughed when I told her I wanted to abstain, but she never said anything about about her opinion on drugs. I maintained my sobriety until my senior year, because the subject matter had not been sensationalized or otherwise hyperbolically misrepresented by my guardian(s).

                        #6.5 - Wed Dec 16, 2009 10:14 AM EST
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                        wood-734285

                        Damn, I wish cell phones were around when I was a teenager. Lots easier than sneaking a Playboy out of the barber shop.

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                        Reply#7 - Tue Dec 15, 2009 2:42 PM EST
                        FlyinV

                        Bwwwwaaaaahahahahaahahahaha! Man I could tell a funny story about that! Yeah, busted, life sucked for a couple of weeks.

                          #7.1 - Tue Dec 15, 2009 2:50 PM EST
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                          Beebobby

                          I think they should all be arrested for distributing child porn and made to register as sex offenders. Pretty soon the list will become so large and unmanagable that it will have no meaning and folks can go back to worrying about something important.

                          • 2 votes
                          Reply#8 - Tue Dec 15, 2009 2:47 PM EST
                          Nonenone

                          Good idea...

                          • 2 votes
                          #8.1 - Tue Dec 15, 2009 4:05 PM EST
                          addiem

                          Probably right on that - or will they yet again figure out another way to nanny-state us to death.

                          • 1 vote
                          #8.2 - Tue Dec 15, 2009 4:37 PM EST
                          Auteur 1536

                          I think they should all be arrested for distributing child porn and made to register as sex offenders.

                          So you want their lives ruined even more? Arresting and labeling them as sex offenders over pictures isn't going to help. Kids need to be educated about the consequences and dangers of sexting.

                          Pretty soon the list will become so large and unmanagable that it will have no meaning and folks can go back to worrying about something important.

                          The list will become large and unmanageable because you're prosecuting kids over pictures and that's not going to help the problem, that will just lower the age requirement to be labeled a sex offender. Kids also won't learn if you keep arresting them. You have to talk to them about sexting and why it's dangerous and why it's not the best thing to do or get involved in.

                          • 2 votes
                          #8.3 - Tue Dec 15, 2009 5:30 PM EST
                          G.H.Deleted
                          Auteur 1536

                          I'm a left winger, but I don't think that kids should be sending nude pictures of themselves to each other or nude videos. I also know, though, that we can't stop them from doing it either. They're going to do it at some point and it's better they get the facts first before they get into the craze.

                          • 2 votes
                          #8.5 - Tue Dec 15, 2009 7:49 PM EST
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                          Auteur 1536

                          I said they're going to do it at some point, I didn't say they would all do it. I also said that they should have classes that educate kids about 'sexting,' so that if they do think about 'sexting' they might think twice about doing it if they know about the consequences and the dangers.

                            #8.7 - Wed Dec 16, 2009 12:36 AM EST
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                            PM NYC

                            Bravo, and i bet that if it was a reality that they cannot get away with it, there would be a lot less of it going on!

                            Children have way too much power. They can just SAY an adult was inappropriate and the adult life is ruined.

                            Why do these teens have so much freedom? A phone with only calling capacity is all they need to keep in touch with their parents.

                            Why are parents paying through the nose for the extra services for these children? When did children become more important than the adults that raise them? And the other adults in their lives?

                            • 1 vote
                            #8.9 - Thu Dec 17, 2009 2:31 PM EST
                            SteveJ-1209086

                            While I believe that there \hould be approprite punishment for every inappropriate action, society has to remember that there are good ressons why we don't let kids drive, drink, enter legal contracts or join the military until a certain age. That is because most teenagers are ill equipped to make rational decisions in some ares. They fail to see consequence. We are shocked when young people die in horrific car crashes killing frien=ds and loved ones, or when our society place such a high focus on sexuality then they come home pregnant.

                            I don't believe that turening kids that make a mistake into criminals is really productive, though there does need to be consequence.

                              #8.10 - Thu Dec 17, 2009 3:08 PM EST
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                              Auteur 1536

                              as to classes to teach them about it? I can only say that there are not any classes that teach children the consequesnse of murder, yet parents to a pretty good job of making sure their children know it is wrong.

                              What does 'sexting' have to do with murder?

                              Second, they shouldn't be charged with child pornography. You're ruining their lives even more over a stupid mistake they made. What will the kids learn from that? How does that help stop 'sexting'?

                              As long as it is criminal for adults, it has to be criminal for children.

                              So if a 9 year old sends nude pictures of themselves via text, or the internet, should they be labled a sex offender or does that only apply to teens?

                                #8.12 - Fri Dec 18, 2009 2:35 AM EST
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                                willur

                                What's the big deal! They chose to send them. Someone's not making them pose. Get with the century!

                                • 1 vote
                                Reply#9 - Tue Dec 15, 2009 2:48 PM EST
                                A-870283

                                See, this is where the past generations went wrong-"Get with the century?" Wow, just wow! Each generation gets easier and easier, no self-control, no morals, more spoiled, more selfish, and carry a: "Anything and everything goes" kind of attitude. With the exception of murder, there is nothing considered to be wrong anymore. Then these same people want to gripe when our youth are disrespectful to their elders? It doesn't take a rocket science to figure out the problem here people. It's their EXAMPLES! People mock the past and simpler times if they want to, but the past also didn't have all this drama(and not to say they didn't have their fair share of problems and "skeletons," but this generation and even are older people have gone too far!) you see today either. People had respect for their elders, each other and God! But nowadays? People could care less about ANY of those because they're so consumed with nothing their own selfish needs and wants- "let me get mine" seems to be their mottos!

                                The attitudes that the ADULTS carry in their lives is what helps to form the minds of our youth. The more things we accept that we shouldn't, the more they will too. If the adults of today show no morality and lack of respect for themselves and others by how they live their lives, then how can they expect the kids of today too either? The kids are only following suit by their examples(or lack of). But again, today it's "no big deal" and "let's get with the century" right? Just remember this, these kids will be the ones caring for you and I someday! Do you trust the hands of this generation at the America's going because I sure as heck don't! I highly doubt as elderly people, we will be saying the things we are now, not when you'll be at the mercy of this upcoming generation.

                                  #9.1 - Tue Dec 15, 2009 3:28 PM EST
                                  Weathergirl3

                                  "People had respect for God"! Not everyone is a Christian.

                                  • 1 vote
                                  #9.2 - Wed Dec 16, 2009 3:42 PM EST
                                  CAAPSorgDeleted
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                                  E-1147695

                                  This should not be happening...breaks my heart...

                                  What are we teaching? What have we become?

                                    Reply#10 - Tue Dec 15, 2009 2:51 PM EST
                                    SteveJ-1209086

                                    We had something like sexting in the 70s, poloriods. But seriously, parents need take an active interest in what their kids are doing. IO regularly searched my kid's computer and their phones could only be phones. In fact I had an incident where i found out my son was posting inappropriate pictures. I confronted him with the evidence and we had a seriouse discussion about it. I think he was so embarrased that he would never do it again.

                                    Sex is so prevalent today that parents really need to have open discussions with their kids about all the ramifications. Many I don't think grsp the concept of what is real and what is fantasy, and there is a real ignorance regarding privacy on the web.

                                    • 4 votes
                                    Reply#11 - Tue Dec 15, 2009 2:57 PM EST
                                    Lee-408976

                                    It's just that simple, and even when parents are involved, there are still no guarantees. Kids are going to find a way if they want to do something.

                                    • 2 votes
                                    #11.1 - Tue Dec 15, 2009 4:42 PM EST
                                    sicken

                                    Polaroids, funny.

                                    • 1 vote
                                    #11.2 - Tue Dec 15, 2009 6:12 PM EST
                                    SadigieDeleted
                                    Alexis Justice

                                    Comparison of This Demographic Phenomenon With The Experience of a Person Who Was a Teen from '96-2003.

                                    I was born in 1984, and, while I did not exhibit any sexual behavior until age 16-NOT due to any disciplinary measures taken by my parents; my mom laughed in my face when I told her my plan to abstain from sex until marriage-the majority of my peers in an upper middle class suburban community had not only already engaged in ACTUAL sexual activity by the age of 11, but had also drank alcohol, smoked cigarettes and marijuana.

                                    So, based on my personal experience, I have two questions:
                                    1.) How do parents forget/omit the details of their own memories of maturing sexually when it happens to their kids?

                                    2.) If "sexting" (the label itself seems highly indicative of the core issue: it's phone sex, people...PHONE SEX) is the extent of response of poor young adults to the pressures of the parents referred to in 1.), then who is losing what battle? The teens are being deprived of their human sovereignty by fear-stricken parents (I guess?) who, while they are unable to provide an otherwise more gratifying lifestyle to their maturing offspring, are more than willing to provide them with cell phones with internet capabilities.

                                    It hurt my feelings when my mom laughed at me, and it probably affected my failure to successfully fulfill my personal goal of abstenance.

                                    Similarly, rejecting any truth of your maturing child's state of mind undermines not only your relationship with them, but the legitimacy of their free will, which is a significantly more grave offense than being young and horny, like nature intends.

                                    PS-She may have laughed when I told her I wanted to abstain, but she never said anything about about her opinion on drugs. I maintained my sobriety until my senior year, because the subject matter had not been sensationalized or otherwise hyperbolically misrepresented by my guardian(s).

                                      #11.4 - Wed Dec 16, 2009 10:10 AM EST
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                                      RealityCheck-749005

                                      lets see teens that are overly interested in sex and that do dumb things because of it...  ...this is not new, this is not surprising, this is not really even news.  New technology means new ways for teen-agers to act like teen-agers.  Who cares.

                                        Reply#12 - Tue Dec 15, 2009 2:59 PM EST
                                        FlyinV

                                        I care. No, I can't stop it, nor do I want to. Part of growing up. But I can intervene with my son and steer that hormonal boy in the right direction till he gets his wits about him.

                                          #12.1 - Tue Dec 15, 2009 3:26 PM EST
                                          G.H.Deleted
                                          Alexis Justice

                                          Comparison of This Demographic Phenomenon With The Experience of a Person Who Was a Teen from '96-2003.

                                          I was born in 1984, and, while I did not exhibit any sexual behavior until age 16-NOT due to any disciplinary measures taken by my parents; my mom laughed in my face when I told her my plan to abstain from sex until marriage-the majority of my peers in an upper middle class suburban community had not only already engaged in ACTUAL sexual activity by the age of 11, but had also drank alcohol, smoked cigarettes and marijuana.

                                          So, based on my personal experience, I have two questions:
                                          1.) How do parents forget/omit the details of their own memories of maturing sexually when it happens to their kids?

                                          2.) If "sexting" (the label itself seems highly indicative of the core issue: it's phone sex, people...PHONE SEX) is the extent of response of poor young adults to the pressures of the parents referred to in 1.), then who is losing what battle? The teens are being deprived of their human sovereignty by fear-stricken parents (I guess?) who, while they are unable to provide an otherwise more gratifying lifestyle to their maturing offspring, are more than willing to provide them with cell phones with internet capabilities.

                                          It hurt my feelings when my mom laughed at me, and it probably affected my failure to successfully fulfill my personal goal of abstenance.

                                          Similarly, rejecting any truth of your maturing child's state of mind undermines not only your relationship with them, but the legitimacy of their free will, which is a significantly more grave offense than being young and horny, like nature intends.

                                          PS-She may have laughed when I told her I wanted to abstain, but she never said anything about about her opinion on drugs. I maintained my sobriety until my senior year, because the subject matter had not been sensationalized or otherwise hyperbolically misrepresented by my guardian(s).

                                            #12.3 - Wed Dec 16, 2009 10:09 AM EST
                                            ErinNJ

                                            Alexis, posting the same information repeatedly is counterproductive. Please stop posting until you have something new to add to the discussion.

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                                            #12.4 - Wed Dec 16, 2009 2:32 PM EST
                                            CAAPSorgDeleted
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                                            James Smith-455957

                                            A generation ago, "sexual content" conversations were verbal. Now they are sent by text messages. Nothing has changed other than the delivery system. Yes, you may be shocked by the context, but that is what kids talk about. Always try to direct children in the right way but, always remember, they are kids, they will make mistakes. Hopefully, nothing too big.

                                            • 2 votes
                                            Reply#13 - Tue Dec 15, 2009 3:37 PM EST
                                            steveO-334978

                                            There's a big difference between saying a dirty word to your friend and dropping your pants so everyone get's a good look at ya! Sexting is a way to show off your body hoping some guy or girl wants a closer look. Don't fool yourself, each generation gets a little more immoral, more risky and ultimately more liberal. Did you see the story today about the 14 year old raping a 12 year old in the stairwell of their school! Happens all the time but didn't during my generation!

                                              #13.1 - Tue Dec 15, 2009 4:03 PM EST
                                              Nonenone

                                              Utter bull Steve...Lets take a look shall we...BTK was the 80's and Manson was the 70's just to name a few...Society changes a little but not a lot...Kids are not any more depraved or sexually aware than 20 years ago...how do I know...well I am 29 and we talked about sex and looked at our parents magazines when I was 9...

                                              • 2 votes
                                              #13.2 - Tue Dec 15, 2009 4:12 PM EST
                                              Tom been both

                                              So nonenone, where did you find evidence that BTK and Manson were teenagers? And as far as there being fewer morals in society generation after generation, it is correct. The larger problem is that once it gets into cyberspace, it is forever. A healthy dose of self respect instilled by parents could do many of these kids a world of good.

                                                #13.3 - Tue Dec 15, 2009 4:55 PM EST
                                                soulalonegirl

                                                SteveO-unsure of your age but a student was raped at my school in the late 80s and a bunch of teachers stood by and did nothing.

                                                  #13.4 - Wed Dec 16, 2009 9:27 AM EST
                                                  Alexis Justice

                                                  Comparison of This Demographic Phenomenon With The Experience of a Person Who Was a Teen from '96-2003.

                                                  I was born in 1984, and, while I did not exhibit any sexual behavior until age 16-NOT due to any disciplinary measures taken by my parents; my mom laughed in my face when I told her my plan to abstain from sex until marriage-the majority of my peers in an upper middle class suburban community had not only already engaged in ACTUAL sexual activity by the age of 11, but had also drank alcohol, smoked cigarettes and marijuana.

                                                  So, based on my personal experience, I have two questions:
                                                  1.) How do parents forget/omit the details of their own memories of maturing sexually when it happens to their kids?

                                                  2.) If "sexting" (the label itself seems highly indicative of the core issue: it's phone sex, people...PHONE SEX) is the extent of response of poor young adults to the pressures of the parents referred to in 1.), then who is losing what battle? The teens are being deprived of their human sovereignty by fear-stricken parents (I guess?) who, while they are unable to provide an otherwise more gratifying lifestyle to their maturing offspring, are more than willing to provide them with cell phones with internet capabilities.

                                                  It hurt my feelings when my mom laughed at me, and it probably affected my failure to successfully fulfill my personal goal of abstenance.

                                                  Similarly, rejecting any truth of your maturing child's state of mind undermines not only your relationship with them, but the legitimacy of their free will, which is a significantly more grave offense than being young and horny, like nature intends.

                                                  PS-She may have laughed when I told her I wanted to abstain, but she never said anything about about her opinion on drugs. I maintained my sobriety until my senior year, because the subject matter had not been sensationalized or otherwise hyperbolically misrepresented by my guardian(s).

                                                    #13.5 - Wed Dec 16, 2009 10:08 AM EST
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                                                    YOUHAVENOCLUEBUSTA

                                                    listen all adults on this blog thats talking about how there child are sending this and that take a good look in the mirror parents you do it to thats why kids learn from that ive seen it before. parents are not perfect your telling me we cant do a survey on here about any of you. illl say 75% sends nudes in here. sexting is all over!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! its a crazy world but welcome to it baby!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

                                                    • 1 vote
                                                    Reply#14 - Tue Dec 15, 2009 3:47 PM EST
                                                    Alexis Justice

                                                    Comparison of This Demographic Phenomenon With The Experience of a Person Who Was a Teen from '96-2003.

                                                    I was born in 1984, and, while I did not exhibit any sexual behavior until age 16-NOT due to any disciplinary measures taken by my parents; my mom laughed in my face when I told her my plan to abstain from sex until marriage-the majority of my peers in an upper middle class suburban community had not only already engaged in ACTUAL sexual activity by the age of 11, but had also drank alcohol, smoked cigarettes and marijuana.

                                                    So, based on my personal experience, I have two questions:
                                                    1.) How do parents forget/omit the details of their own memories of maturing sexually when it happens to their kids?

                                                    2.) If "sexting" (the label itself seems highly indicative of the core issue: it's phone sex, people...PHONE SEX) is the extent of response of poor young adults to the pressures of the parents referred to in 1.), then who is losing what battle? The teens are being deprived of their human sovereignty by fear-stricken parents (I guess?) who, while they are unable to provide an otherwise more gratifying lifestyle to their maturing offspring, are more than willing to provide them with cell phones with internet capabilities.

                                                    It hurt my feelings when my mom laughed at me, and it probably affected my failure to successfully fulfill my personal goal of abstenance.

                                                    Similarly, rejecting any truth of your maturing child's state of mind undermines not only your relationship with them, but the legitimacy of their free will, which is a significantly more grave offense than being young and horny, like nature intends.

                                                    PS-She may have laughed when I told her I wanted to abstain, but she never said anything about about her opinion on drugs. I maintained my sobriety until my senior year, because the subject matter had not been sensationalized or otherwise hyperbolically misrepresented by my guardian(s).

                                                      #14.1 - Wed Dec 16, 2009 10:06 AM EST
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                                                      YOUHAVENOCLUEBUSTA

                                                      sexting is all over i do it your uncle does it your wife does it your next door neighbor does it the chick down the street that you never knew would do such a thing guess what she does it!!!!! give me a break people that write these storys have nothing else to write about forget the kids for a second lets put the parents under the hot light ill say about 70% who blog on this story have sent nudes dont lie!!!!!!! shut up!!!!!!!! real facts!!!!!!!!! lets do a survey on the parents kids down 20% parents up 80%

                                                        Reply#15 - Tue Dec 15, 2009 3:52 PM EST
                                                        FlyinV

                                                        Perv.....;)

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                                                        #15.1 - Tue Dec 15, 2009 4:38 PM EST
                                                        G.H.Deleted
                                                        CAAPSorgDeleted
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                                                        SpaceGeneral

                                                        Honestly im ashamed with you people and at 19 i can say im glad my generation will be 10times better then you all could ever dreamed...Everything we do is wrong, think of how you all felt kept now the media hits us, we are hit harder then you all ever where. You want to to be good students yet im paying 26% on my student loans. You want us to be Fit, yet you glad support each fast food joint. You want to stop us from using drugs or illegal substances...Yet billions a year are grown in Califorina....Im sorry but you you 30 year old stop crying and started saying...I WILL PAY HIGHER TAXES, I WILL BE MORE INVOLVED IN MY CHILDS LIFE, I WILL NOT GO IM TIRED I DONT WANT TO MAKE DINNER LETS EAT OUT!!!!!! one you ADULTS!!!!! start relizing that all the pressure and failure that we show comes from you...we will never be better..............get used to it and i mean the truth enjoy the power you older men and women have becuase right now this is your country, 15years from now........I WILL BE MINE

                                                        • 1 vote
                                                        Reply#16 - Tue Dec 15, 2009 4:20 PM EST
                                                        TIred of silly

                                                        Perhaps an English class would help you with your shame...

                                                        • 2 votes
                                                        #16.1 - Tue Dec 15, 2009 4:35 PM EST
                                                        SteveJ-1209086

                                                        Ahh to be 19 again, so full of passion, anger, confidence, insecurity, arrogance and ignorance. Nineteen, realize that every generation has faced some horiffic circumstance that will be to downfall of the civilization. Doom was inevitible when we all werre teenagers. We were faced with the problem caused by our parents. Some have been solve, some created and the remaining will be passed to you. Undoubtedly when you hit your 30s-40s you will find something to fault your children with, and the cycle continues.

                                                        • 1 vote
                                                        #16.2 - Tue Dec 15, 2009 4:36 PM EST
                                                        Tom been both

                                                        I think the spaceman is smoking too much of something.

                                                        • 1 vote
                                                        #16.3 - Tue Dec 15, 2009 4:44 PM EST
                                                        Alexis Justice

                                                        Comparison of This Demographic Phenomenon With The Experience of a Person Who Was a Teen from '96-2003.

                                                        I was born in 1984, and, while I did not exhibit any sexual behavior until age 16-NOT due to any disciplinary measures taken by my parents; my mom laughed in my face when I told her my plan to abstain from sex until marriage-the majority of my peers in an upper middle class suburban community had not only already engaged in ACTUAL sexual activity by the age of 11, but had also drank alcohol, smoked cigarettes and marijuana.

                                                        So, based on my personal experience, I have two questions:
                                                        1.) How do parents forget/omit the details of their own memories of maturing sexually when it happens to their kids?

                                                        2.) If "sexting" (the label itself seems highly indicative of the core issue: it's phone sex, people...PHONE SEX) is the extent of response of poor young adults to the pressures of the parents referred to in 1.), then who is losing what battle? The teens are being deprived of their human sovereignty by fear-stricken parents (I guess?) who, while they are unable to provide an otherwise more gratifying lifestyle to their maturing offspring, are more than willing to provide them with cell phones with internet capabilities.

                                                        It hurt my feelings when my mom laughed at me, and it probably affected my failure to successfully fulfill my personal goal of abstenance.

                                                        Similarly, rejecting any truth of your maturing child's state of mind undermines not only your relationship with them, but the legitimacy of their free will, which is a significantly more grave offense than being young and horny, like nature intends.

                                                        PS-She may have laughed when I told her I wanted to abstain, but she never said anything about about her opinion on drugs. I maintained my sobriety until my senior year, because the subject matter had not been sensationalized or otherwise hyperbolically misrepresented by my guardian(s).

                                                          #16.4 - Wed Dec 16, 2009 10:05 AM EST
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                                                          TIred of silly

                                                          Good for them.

                                                            Reply#17 - Tue Dec 15, 2009 4:34 PM EST
                                                            John Williams-nam-vet

                                                            Its not the teens fault..its their parents fault..goes by the way they are raised!

                                                            Of course I never had a cell or even internet in my teen years..but did have a phone and that was very restricked for use.

                                                            No excuse why parents can't do the same..they have to pay for it most likely..even if a teen makes side money..most service terms needs someone over 18!

                                                            Like all things in life and what kids do..it still comes down to the parent...MAKES NO DIFFERENCE IF NO TIME TO WATCH THEM..SHOULD NEVER HAD THEM THEN!

                                                            • 1 vote
                                                            Reply#18 - Tue Dec 15, 2009 4:41 PM EST
                                                            Auteur 1536

                                                            Its not the teens fault..its their parents fault..goes by the way they are raised!

                                                            And what if the kids who are 'sexting' were kids who were raised well but just got turned around?

                                                            • 2 votes
                                                            #18.1 - Tue Dec 15, 2009 5:36 PM EST
                                                            G.H.Deleted
                                                            Auteur 1536

                                                            Then turn them back around as quickly as possible.

                                                            That's easier said than done.

                                                            • 1 vote
                                                            #18.3 - Tue Dec 15, 2009 7:50 PM EST
                                                            G.H.Deleted
                                                            G.H.Deleted
                                                            Auteur 1536

                                                            I'm actually a girl.

                                                              #18.6 - Wed Dec 16, 2009 12:41 AM EST
                                                              Alexis Justice

                                                              Comparison of This Demographic Phenomenon With The Experience of a Person Who Was a Teen from '96-2003.

                                                              I was born in 1984, and, while I did not exhibit any sexual behavior until age 16-NOT due to any disciplinary measures taken by my parents; my mom laughed in my face when I told her my plan to abstain from sex until marriage-the majority of my peers in an upper middle class suburban community had not only already engaged in ACTUAL sexual activity by the age of 11, but had also drank alcohol, smoked cigarettes and marijuana.

                                                              So, based on my personal experience, I have two questions:
                                                              1.) How do parents forget/omit the details of their own memories of maturing sexually when it happens to their kids?

                                                              2.) If "sexting" (the label itself seems highly indicative of the core issue: it's phone sex, people...PHONE SEX) is the extent of response of poor young adults to the pressures of the parents referred to in 1.), then who is losing what battle? The teens are being deprived of their human sovereignty by fear-stricken parents (I guess?) who, while they are unable to provide an otherwise more gratifying lifestyle to their maturing offspring, are more than willing to provide them with cell phones with internet capabilities.

                                                              It hurt my feelings when my mom laughed at me, and it probably affected my failure to successfully fulfill my personal goal of abstenance.

                                                              Similarly, rejecting any truth of your maturing child's state of mind undermines not only your relationship with them, but the legitimacy of their free will, which is a significantly more grave offense than being young and horny, like nature intends.

                                                              PS-She may have laughed when I told her I wanted to abstain, but she never said anything about about her opinion on drugs. I maintained my sobriety until my senior year, because the subject matter had not been sensationalized or otherwise hyperbolically misrepresented by my guardian(s).

                                                                #18.7 - Wed Dec 16, 2009 10:04 AM EST
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                                                                SPM-442185-810179

                                                                Porn charges for 'sexting' stir debate
                                                                Vt. teen gets reduced sentence in ‘sexting’ case
                                                                Think your kid isn't ‘sexting’? Think again
                                                                Yes, why not? start putting 12 & 13 year old in general population jails ...you freak en hypocrite idiots... you Americans are becoming worst kind of human right violators ...you are already destroying many thousands of young peoples lives by charging them with sex related crimes and sending them 10 to 20 years in prisons for having sex with 16 or 17 year old girlfriends... wakee, wakee, you are in 21 century and it is time to revise your laws and get rid of statutory rape laws when kids under age of 23 are involved. Wake up, there are no more 15 year old virgins. 40% of 14 year old girls have sex experience, 70% of 15 year old same thing, and 85 % of 17 year old have sex on regular bases. For boys is even higher. Our teens know more about sex than we do, who are we to make laws that can destroy their lives just because they are having sex? If boys and girl 12 and up can be prosecuted as adults when charged for murder because they are suppose to be mature enough to understand what they did, then why aren't they mature enough at that age, to decide to have a sex? And for those kids sending "sexting" or seeing nude girl or a woman is like reading theirs cartoon's when eating cereal for breakfast. So, hypocrite idiots, stop thinking about charging those kids with porn charges, because you won't be able to build the jails fast enough as existing ones are already overcrowded. And if you do, you will do more harm than good. Read more about stories like this at www.whatpricejustice.com

                                                                • 3 votes
                                                                Reply#19 - Tue Dec 15, 2009 4:43 PM EST
                                                                SteveJ-1209086

                                                                No, Really tell us how you feel.

                                                                • 1 vote
                                                                #19.1 - Tue Dec 15, 2009 5:09 PM EST
                                                                Alexis Justice

                                                                Comparison of This Demographic Phenomenon With The Experience of a Person Who Was a Teen from '96-2003.

                                                                I was born in 1984, and, while I did not exhibit any sexual behavior until age 16-NOT due to any disciplinary measures taken by my parents; my mom laughed in my face when I told her my plan to abstain from sex until marriage-the majority of my peers in an upper middle class suburban community had not only already engaged in ACTUAL sexual activity by the age of 11, but had also drank alcohol, smoked cigarettes and marijuana.

                                                                So, based on my personal experience, I have two questions:
                                                                1.) How do parents forget/omit the details of their own memories of maturing sexually when it happens to their kids?

                                                                2.) If "sexting" (the label itself seems highly indicative of the core issue: it's phone sex, people...PHONE SEX) is the extent of response of poor young adults to the pressures of the parents referred to in 1.), then who is losing what battle? The teens are being deprived of their human sovereignty by fear-stricken parents (I guess?) who, while they are unable to provide an otherwise more gratifying lifestyle to their maturing offspring, are more than willing to provide them with cell phones with internet capabilities.

                                                                It hurt my feelings when my mom laughed at me, and it probably affected my failure to successfully fulfill my personal goal of abstenance.

                                                                Similarly, rejecting any truth of your maturing child's state of mind undermines not only your relationship with them, but the legitimacy of their free will, which is a significantly more grave offense than being young and horny, like nature intends.

                                                                PS-She may have laughed when I told her I wanted to abstain, but she never said anything about about her opinion on drugs. I maintained my sobriety until my senior year, because the subject matter had not been sensationalized or otherwise hyperbolically misrepresented by my guardian(s).

                                                                  #19.2 - Wed Dec 16, 2009 10:04 AM EST
                                                                  CAAPSorgDeleted
                                                                  SteveJ-1209086

                                                                  CAAPS

                                                                  The reason that children are not afforded all the same rights as adults is because they are mentally incapable of making certain decisions in a rational manner. They have neither the experience or the acuity developedto comprehend the magnitude of certain responsibilities. Thats why they are more likely to have an unplanned pregnancy, have a major collision, drink and drive and send nude photos of themselves over the internet.

                                                                  As parents we think because they are intelligent and technically savvy that they are equipped to make these life altering decisions, but in general they are not.

                                                                  --the reality is that parents would ensure that their child would not do such a thing if the consequense were so severe.

                                                                  The reality is that parents cannot control everything their kids do, see and say, and truthfully they should not. The worst kids I remember from being young were either the ones whose parents did not care at all and the one whose parents kept them under their thumbs.

                                                                  ...it was only a few hundred years ago when people married in their teens, and some places in Europe and Asia still allow teens to date and marry adults...

                                                                  And in general the teens had no say in the matter and were basically enslaved.

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                                                                  #19.4 - Thu Dec 17, 2009 3:26 PM EST
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                                                                  chefboyrd

                                                                  Damn how come they didn't have cell phones when I was a teen. :)

                                                                    Reply#20 - Tue Dec 15, 2009 4:50 PM EST
                                                                    John Williams-nam-vet

                                                                    Cell phone..I recall first time I called a girl up..not just a date but to start a friendship (she gave me her number)..leading into a date..and it was by a rotary dial type phone.

                                                                    Don't have to hide the sexting chat there..you say it then and there...nothing to hide behind like these days of cowards!

                                                                    • 1 vote
                                                                    #20.1 - Tue Dec 15, 2009 4:56 PM EST
                                                                    chefboyrd

                                                                    i would like to start this sexting trend for people my age oh nevermind most of them look better with there clothes on. :(

                                                                    • 1 vote
                                                                    #20.2 - Tue Dec 15, 2009 4:58 PM EST
                                                                    SteveJ-1209086

                                                                    Yeah I tried to sext once, I think it caused 9/11.

                                                                    • 1 vote
                                                                    #20.3 - Tue Dec 15, 2009 5:11 PM EST
                                                                    SteveJ-1209086

                                                                    I appologize. That may have been in poor taste.

                                                                      #20.4 - Tue Dec 15, 2009 5:11 PM EST
                                                                      addiem

                                                                      chef - spot on!

                                                                        #20.5 - Tue Dec 15, 2009 10:18 PM EST
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                                                                        Steve-363018

                                                                        To these parents that think their kids regardless of age should have a cell phone for security reasons,baloney!Me and my wife raised 4sons in crime infested Los Angeles,no phones,just plain common sense,raising them to know right from wrong.Todays parents are so busy doing their own thing that family and kids don"t amount to squat until the kids get in trouble.Nip them in the bud before that happens.No phones so you know where Jonny is at or phone to know where Susie is at because they can feed you wrong information and you believe it.We raised our boys to know that we were with them at whatever they wanted to engage in at school.They also knew that if they stepped out of line that they would be corrected one way or another.I had one teacher tell me at a parents/teachers meeting that if I layed a hand on one of our kids,he would have me thrown in jail.My respond to him and all of society was short and to the point.You people start paying for my kids food,a roof over their heads,allowance for school,transportation,etc and then and only then you and the rest can tell me how to raise my children.Case closed.Now all four are happily married and have a beautiful family,and we have our grand-kids and great-grand-kids.If I would have listened to society,God only knows where our kids would be at now.When they turn 18yrs of age,then they become wards of the state if they step out of line.Parents today are Afraid to disciplin their kids because society dictates it.I say(The hell with society)

                                                                        • 1 vote
                                                                        Reply#21 - Tue Dec 15, 2009 4:57 PM EST
                                                                        Auteur 1536

                                                                        To these parents that think their kids regardless of age should have a cell phone for security reasons,baloney

                                                                        You can give kids a cell phone, just disable the texting feature and get them a phone without a camera.

                                                                        I got my first cell phone at 13, I didn't use it to 'sext.' I used it to call my mom to let her know where I was, because I took the bus and train to school and I also walked, and or if I needed her to pick me up, or if I just wanted to talk to her or my family or friends. Not all kids are irresponsible with technology.

                                                                        • 1 vote
                                                                        #21.1 - Tue Dec 15, 2009 5:38 PM EST
                                                                        tired of the inconsistency

                                                                        Ok Steve, let me understand this. Your kids are not only parents, but grandparents themselves. No offense, but that means you raised your children in a totally different generation. Did they have cell phones when your children were teens? Probably not. Seriously, that is like comparing apples to zebras (oranges was too close of a comparison). The amount of crime and crazies in the world today is astronomical compared to when my parents were growing up and even when I was growing up (I'm in my mid 30's). My children are well behaved. I take a very active part in their lives and spend time with their friends so I know what type of influences they are around. Scaring your children by threats is crazy, punishing them is not. I have no problem spanking a child that TRULY deserves to be spanked, but to take out the frustration on them is assinine (intentionally mis-spelled). You sound like an angry older gentlemen that truly needs to act a little closer to his age, no disrespect intended.

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                                                                        #21.2 - Tue Dec 15, 2009 5:44 PM EST
                                                                        Tom been both

                                                                        Tired, what he sounds like is a parent who did his job. There was nothing in what he said that showed in anyway that he ever took frustration out on his kids. That you view that as angry may well say a lot more about you than him. That may be a matter of self-awareness on your end. I honestly have no real idea. But when you start reading into something what isn't there, it may well be a signal of unresolved issues in your own life. It also appears you may well be young and unaware since you state that his kids may not have had cell phones. They didn't exist then no matter what you may see on reruns of Star Trek.

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                                                                        #21.3 - Tue Dec 15, 2009 6:26 PM EST
                                                                        tired of the inconsistency

                                                                        Tom, if you read my post close enough you would understand I was trying to not make assumptions to his age or the age of his children. He stated WHEN they turn 18 in one portion of his post. Didn't know if he still had a younger child. And in that same sentence (see below), he talks about them becoming "wards of the state." Don't know about how you raise(d) your children, if you have/had any, but I don't feel it is productive to threaten that you would ship them off or hope they are jailed. As a parent, our jobs are to teach our children the right and wrong ways in life. If we hide them away in a cave, are we really teaching them about life? I want my girls to be able to make it in the crazy world we live in, and I as a parent believe it is my job to do that. Teaching them responsibility is a great thing. I would rather not worry that one day they won't be able to make it on their own or will find themselves in a situation that they need help, but don't feel they can trust me. And if after they turn 18, and make a mistake I intend to be there for them and not just expect the government to take care of it. Parenting does not stop when the last child in your home turns 18, a true parent NEVER stops being a parent. At least that is my opinion.

                                                                        When they turn 18yrs of age,then they become wards of the state if they step out of line.

                                                                        I am not by any stretch of the imagination trying to bash Steve, or you for that matter, but when he ended his post by stating, "The hell with society" and when he stated the above mentioned, it doesn't really sound like Mr. Rogers or Captain Kangaroo, sounds a little more like Mr. Wilson, wouldn't you say? Sounds a bit angry, but maybe I'm wrong, wouldn't be the first or last time that happened.

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                                                                        #21.4 - Wed Dec 16, 2009 9:36 AM EST
                                                                        Alexis Justice

                                                                        Comparison of This Demographic Phenomenon With The Experience of a Person Who Was a Teen from '96-2003.

                                                                        I was born in 1984, and, while I did not exhibit any sexual behavior until age 16-NOT due to any disciplinary measures taken by my parents; my mom laughed in my face when I told her my plan to abstain from sex until marriage-the majority of my peers in an upper middle class suburban community had not only already engaged in ACTUAL sexual activity by the age of 11, but had also drank alcohol, smoked cigarettes and marijuana.

                                                                        So, based on my personal experience, I have two questions:
                                                                        1.) How do parents forget/omit the details of their own memories of maturing sexually when it happens to their kids?

                                                                        2.) If "sexting" (the label itself seems highly indicative of the core issue: it's phone sex, people...PHONE SEX) is the extent of response of poor young adults to the pressures of the parents referred to in 1.), then who is losing what battle? The teens are being deprived of their human sovereignty by fear-stricken parents (I guess?) who, while they are unable to provide an otherwise more gratifying lifestyle to their maturing offspring, are more than willing to provide them with cell phones with internet capabilities.

                                                                        It hurt my feelings when my mom laughed at me, and it probably affected my failure to successfully fulfill my personal goal of abstenance.

                                                                        Similarly, rejecting any truth of your maturing child's state of mind undermines not only your relationship with them, but the legitimacy of their free will, which is a significantly more grave offense than being young and horny, like nature intends.

                                                                        PS-She may have laughed when I told her I wanted to abstain, but she never said anything about about her opinion on drugs. I maintained my sobriety until my senior year, because the subject matter had not been sensationalized or otherwise hyperbolically misrepresented by my guardian(s).

                                                                          #21.5 - Wed Dec 16, 2009 10:02 AM EST
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                                                                          Steve-363018

                                                                          What our government needs to do since they are concerned about sexting ,is to stop the manufacture of these phones,once and forall.Tell the manufacture that these phones will not be allowed in the US,period or they stand to get heavy fines.Shut them down,simple as that .

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                                                                          Reply#22 - Tue Dec 15, 2009 5:03 PM EST
                                                                          Auteur 1536

                                                                          That won't help, that will just influence the black market. Plus, if the kids were to get lost, how would they call for help?

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                                                                          #22.1 - Tue Dec 15, 2009 5:39 PM EST
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                                                                          John Williams-nam-vet

                                                                          Steve..you raised your kids the correct way..just like I did..we are the society.

                                                                          Its the others who really don't care about what their kids do..or just like to spoil their kids to get love from them..sorry state either way for them really!

                                                                            Reply#23 - Tue Dec 15, 2009 5:06 PM EST
                                                                            YOUHAVENOCLUEBUSTA

                                                                            why is it the parents fault give me a break you do it to everybody in here does it silly people in here even the people that came up with this damm story sexting them selfs stop it

                                                                              Reply#24 - Tue Dec 15, 2009 5:13 PM EST
                                                                              John Williams-nam-vet

                                                                              What child under 18 can sign a service term agreement with a cell phone company or internet service..

                                                                              Your one of the idiotic parents IC!

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                                                                              #24.1 - Tue Dec 15, 2009 5:17 PM EST
                                                                              John Williams-nam-vet

                                                                              Plus your comment sounds like your 12 years old!

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                                                                              #24.2 - Tue Dec 15, 2009 5:20 PM EST
                                                                              Tom been both

                                                                              It sounds more like he wants to see a 12 year old naked.

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                                                                              #24.3 - Tue Dec 15, 2009 5:29 PM EST
                                                                              Auteur 1536

                                                                              why is it the parents fault

                                                                              Because people are lazy and expect all parents to be perfect. They don't think that "good kids" will ever act out.

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                                                                              #24.4 - Tue Dec 15, 2009 5:40 PM EST
                                                                              G.H.Deleted
                                                                              Auteur 1536

                                                                              I thought it was Ozzy and Sharon?

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                                                                              #24.6 - Wed Dec 16, 2009 12:44 AM EST
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                                                                              Megan-775995564

                                                                              I think some people here need to learn what "sexting" really is. Technically, sexting means anything sent over the phone that's sexually explicit, including messages, photos, & videos. In recent media stories however, sexting refers ONLY to photos & videos. I'll agree that explicit text messages aren't a huge problem (still a problem, but not in a big way) but images and videos of NUDE teens is a really big problem, and I'd like anyone to tell me why they would think otherwise.

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                                                                              Reply#25 - Tue Dec 15, 2009 5:27 PM EST
                                                                              Tom been both

                                                                              Megan, no one can tell you why they think otherwise, only that they feel otherwise. Thought has no application in this process.

                                                                                #25.1 - Tue Dec 15, 2009 5:31 PM EST
                                                                                AceofSpades-1126137

                                                                                Tom been both,

                                                                                Get off the page, your still a moron!

                                                                                  #25.2 - Tue Dec 15, 2009 8:56 PM EST
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                                                                                  Maleko-1182530

                                                                                  Today's teens are exposed to so much more than I was as a teen. Yes, we know that are teens are growing up so fast and being inundated with provocative and sexually charged images. While not relative to the crux of this article, I find it so sad. All I can say is I I am so happy that I am not a teenager today. Ugh!

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                                                                                  Reply#26 - Tue Dec 15, 2009 5:29 PM EST
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