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Kids are a major time and energy commitment, and many couples find less time for each other after becoming parents. Is it possible to have a healthy sex life after having kids?
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I don't have kids yet, but I'm guessing that time for passion is different after children, but I do think the two can exist-it's just like most things....if it's important you'll make time for it.
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#1 - Thu Apr 2, 2009 12:21 PM EDT{"commentId":6286491,"authorDomain":"nurse-of-ages"}
Satistics show that marriages are at their lowest happiness while children are in the home, and rise again to pre-children levels once they move out.
So, while there can certainly be love and sexual attraction, I don't think the same kind of passion can exist while there are children still in the home.
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#2 - Thu Apr 2, 2009 5:28 PM EDT{"commentId":6288206,"authorDomain":"brianneharrington"}
There are always ways, although it is definately harder with many children and young children. My husband and I have shower sex, quickies in the morning, and, yes, schedule sex. It's not "romantic", but neither is not having sex and at least we are satisfied!
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#3 - Thu Apr 2, 2009 7:20 PM EDT{"commentId":6299053,"authorDomain":"stubbyandshort2"}
Well I have had it all..but the one thing women do is: to try to protect the working man..this is wrong..believe me. the work doubles for you . You know your husband works and comes home tired or at least lack of energy..So we try to keep kids clean,quiet,fed and ready for bed at anytime you see your husband getting grumpy...You want time for the two of u plays in this also..but either way..your both exhausted, one from work,,one from stress..
It is NOT ok to remove parts of the family..( KIDS )..they need both of you.. Always have dinner together as a family..when possible..and should be the big plan of family time.. You can have activities planned for the kids in the eve if too youg for school..to keep then happy..removing the kids from the family only creates another problem not solving one..If your husband such as mine was insists on quiet..make a room for him. He can be alone..do not remove the kids from thier room..living room, kitchen what ever...he can leave the room..soon he will realize that he is the problem..not the kids..kids will be kids and they are not always going to be quiet..so STOP PROTECTING THE DAD.. he's an adult,,let him figure out what he is doing,,don't point it out all the time though.. If he is tired and you had plans..go to what u want to do with the kids or friends...your not his babysitter..do not ever give up things you want to do or go..this puts a control issue in place and a pattern of control on his part..even if he does not know he is doing it..you are allowing it..simple changes and gradual changes for the better will make for a better marriage and relationship with your kids...A family is precious and should never be pushed aside..Make Love as often as u can where ever u can..giggle, laugh, talk,,sip a glass of wine out the same glass,,share a cookie,,cake,,ect..little affectionate things makes the difference..enjoy each other and the rest will fall into place..but never excuse your kids for the dad..NEVER!!
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#4 - Fri Apr 3, 2009 12:57 PM EDT{"commentId":6299167,"authorDomain":"stubbyandshort2"}
you Stella
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#5 - Fri Apr 3, 2009 1:01 PM EDT{"commentId":6367477,"authorDomain":"avoth223"}
My lust for my husband is unabated after our child came into the world. However, one's sex life does change drastically while the baby is in the early stages of development on the outside. Only now, at 8 mos, are we finally just starting to get back on track.....sex has become about quality and not quantity, so, I am glad we had lots of practice before our baby was born!
My advice? Get the biggest bottle of AstroGlide possible. KY does not work well enough for the 6 wk after the birth sex.
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#6 - Tue Apr 7, 2009 9:51 PM EDT{"commentId":6778320,"authorDomain":"imamomandimapc"}
The Passion is there, but the fire kinda dies down and it is hard to keep it burning hot when parents, (usually the mother) is always dealing with and thinking about kinds. By the time I lay down in bed at night, Im dying to get to sleep, I just want my man to hold me. Still madly in love, just exhausted. And that attacks a womans libido. :(
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#7 - Wed Apr 29, 2009 1:25 PM EDT{"canLink":false,"threadId":"544359","isPrivate":false}
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Statistics show that marriages are at their lowest happiness while there are children in the home.