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As for me, I hate the games. If he likes you why not call the next day?
#1 - Wed Apr 8, 2009 12:42 AM EDTMaybe he's just busy. Hopefully he has a job and a life outside of dating. I don't consider it playing games if he doesn't call for a few days (FEW AS IN 2 or 3 DAYS, NOT TWO WEEKS). I have stuff to do just like he does and if we went out on Saturday and he calls on Tuesday....I'd be completely okay with that. Now I do have a problem with him waiting until Friday to call for a date on Saturday. This to me is a game playing move because if he waits until Friday to call you for a Saturday date he was probably trying to see if he could find someone better to go out with and couldn't so he settled for giving you a last minute call.
The problem with waiting until the next day is that women will think you are desperate. Look at the graph above. Most women expect to have to wait a few days to hear from a guy. Or look at what the poster right above me said.
I'd like to call later that night, but then women would think I'm a creep, so I wait two or three days to call. Sometimes there are exceptions, but a guy is clearly taking a chance if he calls a woman too soon.
We should discuss why men feel the need to be such jackasses on dates. I haven't been a date in a while that I'd want to repeat! Bleah.
#2 - Wed Apr 8, 2009 10:51 AM EDTI agree with Bonnie, if a guy likes you why the games. Now a days men are intimidated by independant working woman, and feel they don't stand a chance with them. That's when the games start and they never attempt to call, leaving in our minds that he was not really into us. Something needs to give!!!
#3 - Wed Apr 8, 2009 3:30 PM EDTI will stick up for the guys on this one (and, like Bill Cosby used to say on "Fat Albert", stick around and you might just learn something, too). I and most of my friends will call a date in about a week, unless there was a clear and specific agreement to do otherwise (i.e. they agreed to see a movie the next day or something). I don't understand why so many people (and, sorry, but it seems to be mostly women) think the call should be the next day or within a day or two. What is the rush? Do you really need your ego to be immediately stroked with a next-day call? Most men like to make decisions based on logic rather than emotion, so, even if they had a great date and want to see you again, they still want some time to think about it logically rather than simply making an immediate call based on emotion that they might eventually regret. Quite frankly, I would consider the next day call to be a warning sign. If a guy is that eager, I would be very careful of his motives, and don't be shocked to eventually learn that he has a wife or girlfriend or that he is only interested in a quick hookup and nothing else. The reason that kind of guy is willing to call right away is because he doesn't need time to think logically about the date and about where your relationship might go because all he wants is sex. I will leave to Darwin to explain why males evolved this way but we did and it will take many generations before you can breed this little quirk out of us so you would be well advised to get used to it and learn to deal with it.
#4 - Wed Apr 8, 2009 5:11 PM EDTI kind of agree with you on that whole calling the next day thing. And for the record...I'm a woman. I would wonder what's up with the guy if he called the next day and hadn't said at the end of the date he would be doing so. I would get a little suspicious that he was trying to move along too fast (i.e. trying to get me into bed, or he has some other woman, etc.). Now I would also be suspicious if he took too long to call (in my estimation....it should only take you a few days after the date to know if you want to go out with the person again or not). Unless you were out of town for work, vacation, or got hit by a bus (or some family emergency), you'd better dial my digits with the week (work week not an actual week) or I will assume you aren't interested and move on.
Move on seems a rather dramatic comment. If its a first date, should you building anything on it? Sounds a little desparate.
#5 - Thu Apr 9, 2009 1:16 PM EDTi agree with ken about the next day call. comes across as a little desperate, maybe even slightly suffocating, if the guy just has to get in touch that soon. i also need time to think about whether i want a second date--it's not just men who feel that way. then again, i don't mind being on my own. a relationship would be icing on the cake, not the whole cake itself as far as my life goes.
#6 - Fri Apr 10, 2009 11:43 AM EDTOk, I am an Italian guy and probably will make a big difference on how you ladies take this, but if I have a good date with a woman that likes me I usually ask when they would like me to call again,if she asks me to call the next day. Then I call at that time... If they say in a week then I say I will and I dont. cause they are so obviously not into me that they need to have some more time alone. If I dont ask or they dont ask then, it is usually because the date didnt go well for one or the other of us. If a woman sees me as desperate because I call the next day, its probably because she is so dissatisfied with herself as a person she could never be satisfied with anyone else. If my persuit of the lovin is so offensive to her then she either is gay or is suffering from an unfortunate std breakout. I think if it works out with a woman then the first date never ends and we just fly Italy and never come back.
#7 - Fri Apr 10, 2009 3:21 PM EDTI am with you Antonio can we go to Italy now?~lol
I am with you Antonio! So when we going to Italy? ; ~)
Interesting comments regarding phone calls after the first date. I usually hear from the guy that night or the next day. If I do not hear from him the next day, it is Karma...oh well...we were not meant to see each other again. I don't hear from the man sometimes because I let him know I don't think we 'work' - don't you usually know in your heart when it's not right? There are a lot of fun men out there...I love being single! :)
#8 - Sat Apr 11, 2009 7:39 PM EDTOk so here is the question?? i went on a date on wednesday he text me after to say he had a lovely evening and that he felt liked he had known me for ages. and said goodnight with 2 xx, i felt the date went well too, but there was no kiss just a kiss in the cheak!! its been 2 days and i still havent heard from him???? will he call do you think??
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i can't remember the last time i 'dated', but i'd say the standard is about three days - depending on how well it went on the first date.