Share your 'near-cheating' confessions here!

I'm with this guy, we've been best friends since junior high, we've talked about marriage and have planned our lives together.

A girl at his church has had this intense obsession with him for months, always texting him dirty messages and pictures, and not keeping her hands to herself when I'm not around. His friendship with her (if it can be called a friendship) is grudging at best. I was out of town for a weekend, and she asked him to go to court with her for "emotional support." Being a gentleman, he agreed, checking to make sure I was ok with it first. Of course, it's just court.

But afterwards, they went back to her house. They were watching a movie when she turned, grabbed his head, and started making out with him. He said it was disgusting, but in his panic, he kissed her back. He left as soon as he could, and called me to tell me the whole story, even his mistake. I was extremely upset that he kissed her back, when he's obviously strong enough to pull away from a girl, and my initial impression was that, if he'd been thinking of me at all, he wouldn't have kissed her back.

But he did tell me, completely honestly, hoping that I would be understanding, like a true best friend.

I just wanted to share a story of mine and get a fresh perspective and what you all think.

My best friend and I of five years have a great relationship, almost as if we are married. There was always an attraction from my end, but not on her's at least that I've known of. In the past I have had dreams about being with her, and she always wants to know details, she however has never mentioned a dream about me, even as close as we are I would think maybe one would sneak in once.

Well about a year and a half ago I started dating this woman, who turned out was lying and cheating on her husband. I ended it because it was going no where because she was not going to leave him anytime soon, she also became evil. The whole time I was with this woman though my best friend seemed to be very jealous that I wasn't spending the time I had in the past with her. The two never met, but they were very jealous of each other. Recently I've also noticied my Best friend seems to get a little nervous everytime there is a possibilty I will hook up with someone.

Does anyone have an Idea on the matter.

I know I'm going to be berated for this one but I cheated 3 years ago and it saved my marriage. I had been a faithful and loving wife for 15 years, never strayed. Our relationship starting deteriorating and we started falling out of love. Our sex life was awful, it was only once in a while and almost cursory. At one point my hubby said that I needed to get a boyfriend...I was crushed. Fast forward 2 years, our problems were even worse and I finally took his advice. I had an affair with a man. I'd be lying if I said that the sex wasn't fantastic, but of course, it wasn't love. I confessed to my hubby several weeks later. At first he asked for a divorce which I understood. But then we started going to a marriage conselor. Through time and lots and lots of work, we fell in love again. He forgave me for cheating and I forgave him for breaking my heart. We realized that when the worst was happening we were at our best. We're still married and happier than ever. He never brings it up and tells me that he loves me every day.

I facebooked my ex expecting him to either have a serious girlfriend, or be only moderately interested in keeping in touch with me... to my surprise he started sending me messages sharing sweet stories about our relationship, and then told me he was going to be coming to my city and we should get together.

I honestly considered lying to my husband about it - because I really did want to see this guy - but knew I could never keep something like that to myself (my husband and I tell each other everything and I would be a horrible liar). My husband wanted to come with me but I was uncomfortable with that, so basically I begged him to let me go by myself. He finally agreed but wasn't happy, and that made me feel HORRIBLE. I know this was wrong, but the need to see this guy was so strong that I took a chance that my husband would eventually forgive me. (To my surprise he did, and even started buying me flowers and stuff for a good week afterward. Weird.)

So I saw my ex at a friend's house, and we basically just sat around and drank wine for a few hours. He asked me if I was "really" married, I said yes, he looked disappointed, and that was the end of our discussion about my marriage. We ran out to get a sandwich, I gave him an inappropriately too long hug goodbye, and right at the last minute he kissed me. It was closed-mouthed, I pushed away immediately, and that was that. He drove back to his city the next day.

Since then he'll send me random text messages, and recently facebook messages that have gotten more and more "playful" if you know what I mean. I wish I could stop, but getting the messages makes me so happy. I'll leave after getting one and strangers will literally smile at me and go "wow - hi happy girl!".

I met this guy on facebook. We sent naughty messages back and forth for a whole day! He was married with children and i knew that. He came into our company to fix our computers and I ended up having lunch with him that day. He lived on the way to my sister's college, so one morning I was on my way to see her when he said i could stop by his house. He gave me directions and his cell number to call in case i had trouble. I drove all the way there, not stopping to see my sister. We ended up having sex and I left shortly after. I felt so gulity! We chatted and chatted for months and we still chat. We continued to see each other and sometimes we'd have sex. His wife never found out or never knew but we've stopped seeing each other since then. 

Ok, if this was wrong, tell me how wrong it was.

I was my best friend's bridesmaid and her husband had gorgeous best man. He's an officer in the Air Force and he looked so good in his uniform (tall, tone, and exotic). I couldn't resist, I had to talk to him, but I didn't want him to know I had an exclusive boyfriend. I even took my girlfriend aside at the rehersal dinner and asked her not to tell the best man about my boyfriend during the wedding. The reason I used is, "because guys don't treat me the same when they know I have a boyfriend."

The night before the wedding we all stayed at my girlfriend's house. I admit I flirted with him on his bed until my girlfriend drug me out of the room and forced me to sleep in her bed. At the wedding reception I danced with him and he was better than I imagined - he danced so well, was so funny, intelligent, and he's around 18" taller than me. Every instinct I had was telling me to get closer and get fully enveloped by his strong arms. I've never met anyone like him. On the wedding pictures and video my face is so flushed, I've never seen my face so red.

Anyway, so, my boyfriend of a year (we had talked about marraige lightly and we were definately exclusive) tries to get my attention. I try to ignore him, but the best man asks me who he is. I don't know what I was thinking, but I blurted out, "he's my little brother." After the dancing was over my boy friend was really angry, but I calmed him down eventually. After the wedding though I kept in touch with the best man on facebook for a couple of weeks flirting with him, I probably would have for longer if it wasn't for facebook's new stalker feed that came online during that time and showed everyone what I was saying.

The point is, I think that deep down, if he had asked me... well I don't know if I could have held back. So, let me have it girls, how wrong was this - and do you have any advice on how I can control myself better in the future?

Ok, if this was wrong, tell me how wrong it was.

I was my best friend's bridesmaid and her husband had gorgeous best man. He's an officer in the Air Force and he looked so good in his uniform (tall, tone, and exotic). I couldn't resist, I had to talk to him, but I didn't want him to know I had an exclusive boyfriend. I even took my girlfriend aside at the rehersal dinner and asked her not to tell the best man about my boyfriend during the wedding. The reason I used is, "because guys don't treat me the same when they know I have a boyfriend."

The night before the wedding we all stayed at my girlfriend's house. I admit I flirted with him on his bed until my girlfriend drug me out of the room and forced me to sleep in her bed. At the wedding reception I danced with him and he was better than I imagined - he danced so well, was so funny, intelligent, and he's around 18" taller than me. Every instinct I had was telling me to get closer and get fully enveloped by his strong arms. I've never met anyone like him. On the wedding pictures and video my face is so flushed, I've never seen my face so red.

Anyway, so, my boyfriend of a year (we had talked about marraige lightly and we were definately exclusive) tries to get my attention. I try to ignore him, but the best man asks me who he is. I don't know what I was thinking, but I blurted out, "he's my little brother." After the dancing was over my boy friend was really angry, but I calmed him down eventually. After the wedding though I kept in touch with the best man on facebook for a couple of weeks flirting with him, I probably would have for longer if it wasn't for facebook's new stalker feed that came online during that time and showed everyone what I was saying.

The point is, I think that deep down, if he had asked me... well I don't know if I could have held back. So, let me have it girls, how wrong was this - and do you have any advice on how I can control myself better in the future?

A few years ago I met a guy who I thought was the one. He apparently felt the same way but nothing ever happened. He was too interested in booze to know what he had. He was hit by a car and was near death. 2 years later, we start talking again, he tells me that he loves me (this is all new at this point, I didn't think he cared for me at all) and he tells me he's sorry for being such an @!$%# and that he regrets not being with me. We've been texting a lot about the past; the mind blowing sex we had, all the awesome memories and stuff that should've been talked about years ago. FINALLY he is telling me what I've been waiting to hear. I would drop my life to be with him...pathetic I know, but I've never met a man like him. He understands me and my weird personality.

Here's where it gets tricky....I'm married. Just had my one year anniversary. I love my hubby to death but all I keep thinking about is that I might be happier with the other guy. He makes me feel so....at the risk of sounding lame, alive. He makes me laugh and for the last week or so I can't stop thinking about him. I was a mess over him and I never got over him. Just when I thought he was out of my life, this happens. I'm so lost right now. The one man that I wanted for so long has come back into my life and told me that he wants to be with me. Ahhh!!!

I have been in a relationship with my bfriend for 8yrs, 3 times he broke up with me in the past and we somehow got back together, its never over till its over right! For the last 2 yrs we've been living together, he moved country for his job and I followed suit after a year and a half of the long distance which was rough since he travels for his job alot and entertains and does alot of nightlife activities to say the least. Yesterday I looked through his cell and found a pic of another woman's well pedicured feet. He has a serious toe fetish. I found it rather disturbing and unnecessary to say the least but he is not the type of man you could easily talk to about anything unfortunately. He doesn't even allow me to answer his phone. I thought to myself, no committment for marriage (yet) after I've given up everything, but he's storing pics of another woman's feet in his personal pics?!! He was also very close with a female co-worker of his when I moved in with him, he spent alot of his time with her before I moved and did almost everything with her, she was very flirtatious, always calling at any hour, and she totally disrespected my presence, which always turned out in a fight for us when I brought up the topic. He doesn't seem to understand what committment means or maybe he just doesn't care due to his selfishness and immaturity. If I did him that he would flip. He uses a bberry and with the 'free' messenger he is constantly on it with staff, friends and 'other people' unknown to me just about 24/7 to the point where we have no privacy even if we go out to get a bite, and I know in my heart he encourages or instigates it at times. For work purposes I can understand to a point, its tough now since his job is very demanding and being in his position he has to be 'available' but outside of work matters I think it very rude. At this stage I feel very confused and concerned about my future with him, the more Godwinks I seem to get, the more I feel unsettled within this relationship. I've always been the very 'accommodating' type and I'm not sure if I've created a monster or not, I do know everyone is responsible for their own actions and I am not crazy. I am praying for God's guidance, if I do need to start over, I pray for strength to relocate and find a job and a safe place to live. I need alot of prayers.

For myself I have never been on that edge. My Husband(of 5 years now, 1 then) however had a full on "emotional" affair with a woman 17 years older then him. There was no sex involved (not phsycal anyway), but he spent way to much time with her and talking to her. It was ridiculous! At one point there were 7,000 texts (only 1,000 being to other people including me) and over 700 minutes of talking on the phone in one MONTH! I had issues with them being friends, but until I seen how much they spoke (mostly texts because of him being at work for 8 hours a day) I didn't get mad about it. I fought tooth and nail with him about the amount, which he seemed to think was wrong until I showed him the bill! Then came the confessions....they both lied about when they'd seen each other...like he would say he was working late etc. when really they would drive around talking or sit in a parking lot talking about dirty things....they didn't touch each other...but that didn't mean they kept their hands off themselves....nuff said...

anyway...I tried to break it apart, but she being who she was, manipulative (no really if you met her....yeah....) she had him defending her. It didn't help that I blamed him more because at first she played the " I am so sorry, he said things were bad..." which they were not. Later , though, more truths came out and it was really more her.

I caught her and him red handed in a steamy IM conversation months after the original confession ...which not only were they getting hot and heavy verbally but the "after" conversation she flat out told him a lie about me. Again I found out later talking to my husband that he knew she lied frequently about me to him trying to turn him on me! She was a piece of work. there is so much drama to this story it should have been a lifetime story! it was that crazy, no joke! I would need a novel to tell all that happened.

I am just glad that in the end of it, after months of being away from her, my husband seen her again and realized that he should have listened to me early on. She was off her rocker and he was finally seeing what I had been saying for the 2 years she was in our lives. I even got a second appology! Thankfully almost 3-4 years later, we are stronger then ever and getting along fine...no more sneaking around on his part. I think he is way to thankful that I gave him the ultimatum in the end...her or me and our son....he chose me and our son. (we just had our 2nd son in december!) otherwise I would be more worried. he knows I mean it when I say "Do it again and I am out of here".

I have been on both sides. My husband is a repeated offender of all types of cheating (has kids to prove it) and also online relationships (which he claims is not cheating because it was never physical). I have tried to get a divorce several times but he makes me feel like it is my fault for breaking up our family and makes it harder for me to leave with my kids than to stay with him. Through all of this my friend of many years has always been there for me, we crossed the line of being friends to being now more than friends. We both know it is wrong but like many have stayed in bad relationships for our children (both have children under 4). We are now at the point that we don't know where to go with our friendship or our marriage.

I had just given birth to my eldest daughter. Her father & I weren't married, but he was already "comfortable" and I felt unattractive to him. I had a very flirtatious & cybersexual relationship with a gentleman from Denmark. I knew we would never actually get together because of the distance, but I really enjoyed our "chats"... After months of this, I ended it because I just didn't have the time to go online anymore. I ended up rekindling the romance between my daughters' father. Four years later we were married...

Just recently, an ex of mine had started calling me at work. He lives in another country and I doubt we'll ever hook up. At first the calls were friendly. We had been the type of exes that would talk for hours on end about anything and everything. After a while, he started bring up our past relationship and how amazing it all was. He even began confessing his feelings at the time I met my (now) husband. I was reserved at first about his confessions, but then I started revealing the same... He has plans on relocating to where he used to live, which is much closer (in proximity) to me. I'm afraid he will want to explore more than our feelings for each other... I'm at a crossroads... my marriage has been rocky for some time, but there's this door that I'm hesitant to open... What's next?

My husband slept with other woman, and he told me about it later. We didn't divoce yet, need time.

Finally, I found a boyfriend. I didn't tell my boyfriend about my situation. I felt so bad about cheating my boyfriend. I love my boyfriend. I am afraid losing him. I don't know, it is crasy.

Am I real horrible liar? what do i need to do?

a co-worker and I are really close. but have always maintained a proffesional distance...until recently. We shared details of dreams we both had about eachother. Since then it has been too much to handle and we have had some close calls.

Luckily we both got it together and have being better keeping our distances again. it is good but sometimes it sucks loosing that closeness.

I had a boyfriend that went out with a "friend" from work drinking every other week. When I asked to meet her, he said he didn't think it was a good idea since he thought she still had feelings for him. They used to date. And she just got married. Every time I asked, he made an excuse and then stopped telling me until after they saw each other or never told me. he said I was jealous and couldn't handle him having female friends. In fact, all of his friends are ex-lovers. One used to call and text all the time. Then he began confiding to a married teacher he worked with about our problems and she did the same about hers. This went on for months without me knowing. 3 days after we broke up, they kissed. But are adamant that they are not cheaters. The friend he didn't want me to meet, caught him sexually flirting with her via email and he said that is how they talk to one another. He also never told other teachers we were engaged or he was with someone. He had a secret friendship with a teacher that quit. They called each other and emailed weekly. He never referred to her by her first name to me. Always as "the first grade teacher". One day i found out that he took her out to lunch and got drunk. She began calling asking him to go out again. Her hubby was in Iraq. She didn't know I existed. His excuse as to why, it never came up. But, she knew about his son and life. Bottom line: we are no longer together and he is insisting he never cheated on me. I've had 4 different therapists tell me did. What do you think? Did he cross the line?

My girlfriend is friends with all the guys she has hooked up with and thinks its okay to still hang out with them. Not mention a guy she works with who still wants to hang out too. It makes me jelous because she blacks out when she drinks. What should I do?

i love how most of these comments are by women cheating, which proves women are worthless they like to say how men are pigs and the cheaters, when in truth it the women that are doing the bad things

My husband of 13 yrs makes it a point to seek out his ex-girlfriends, gives them hugs talks with them like they never been apart. But when a old friend (who just happens to be male )smiles my way, I get the third degree. I havent had no personal relation with this person and I get in trouble . yet he can flirt with whoever and I'm suppose to sit there and watch. We have children , I 'm tired of putting up with his lack of respect towards me.

I've been married for 15 years, and have no intention of changing that fact. However, I maintain friendships with two men in particular, that I would like a neutral opinion on.

One (male) friend and I have discussed masturbation (initially, as it pertains to our religious beliefs, but now we discuss it as a joke; and at least on my end I get a sexual charge out of it). We've also discussed how happy we are with our current spouses, but am wondering if the sexual charge I get from our naughty discussions could be considered cheating.

Another (male) friend and I have always maintained a correspondence, and recently began to rekindle our friendship. He is bisexual, and before I met my husband, he told me he loved me and wanted to "wake up to my face every morning." I was so shocked at the time, I didn't respond; my life was crazy at the time, and I ended up trying to run away from my problems, with my friend and his proposal left behind as collateral damage. I moved away and met and married my husband, but I've always harbored a giant "What If?" where it concerns my friend. My husband is cool with my friendship with him; but I really still have feelings for my friend, although I have never told anyone else about these feelings. Is it cheating to carry on a friendship with someone you're still attracted to?

back when me and my gf where just "friends with benefits" i had sex with her sister. she, and her friends considered it cheating. but she also messed around with someone else at that time. is this cheating?